How to handle a dominant colleague without disrupting the workplace atmosphere

Dominant colleagues can challenge collaboration, particularly when you have different working styles. Yet it is often exactly these people who help achieve results. How do you ensure a good working relationship without losing yourself in battle? Swiss recruitment specialist Robert Walters shares strategies for dealing effectively with a dominant colleague - without sacrificing your job satisfaction.  

Understand the difference in personality  

Not every colleague clicks equally well, and that's OK. Dominant colleagues are often natural leaders, but for some people this can make working together more difficult. A good working relationship starts with recognising these personality differences and finding ways to facilitate communication.  

Give subtle control  

Facing confrontation can be counterproductive, but you don't have to get along with everything either.

Try to find a middle ground where you can agree with certain ideas while sharing your own opinion. By using phrases like, ‘I agree with you on this point, but see that part differently,’ you show respect and maintain your own point of view.  

Provide choices  

Dominant colleagues like to feel responsible, so give them choices whenever possible. This makes them feel valued, while allowing you to set your own direction. For example, think: ‘Shall we try option A or B?’ - this way you promote cooperation without escalation.   

Accept and ignore  

Sometimes the best thing you can do is accept that someone is dominant. By not responding to every comment, you lower the tension and make it clear that you remain in control. However, for unacceptable behaviour, such as bullying, it is crucial to discuss it with your supervisor or a confidential advisor.  

Show kindness  

A small kind gesture can work wonders. Bring a cup of coffee for your colleague or offer to help with a project. This not only helps the atmosphere but can also make you see your colleague in a different way. This phenomenon is known as ‘cognitive dissonance’ - your brain automatically seeks a balance between your behaviour and your feelings.  

Consciously seek distance  

When tension mounts, it can help to literally distance yourself. Find another workplace temporarily or take a short break to catch your breath. It not only helps you stay calm, but also helps you look at the situation more objectively.   

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